Fundraising in Support of Parents Grieving the Loss of a Child

By Kirsty Berger and Tamara Isaacs

A message to William, from his uncle Jon

“I will never forget the day your mum left the hospital without you, she said “this is not the way it is meant to be” and that it wasn’t fair. She didn’t want to leave the hospital without you. It is devastating that your mum and dad did not get to take you home, however I know that they have taken you home in their hearts, and will have you in their memories for as long as they both shall live.”

Every year on the 23rd of August, and every other day in between, a large, loving, and loyal family remembers William Owen Isaacs. From grandparents and great grandparents through the generations to the littlest cousins and siblings he never met, William's stillbirth carries grief that is difficult to fathom. Aunts and uncles, siblings, friends, and distant relatives recall the harrowing grief of William's parents Tamara and Andrew, feeling with them the pain of every milestone - his first birthday; the date he'd have started school. The anniversaries never cease; yearly reminders of that sad and traumatic loss.

William would be eight by now, turning nine in 2021. Eight long years have not erased the grief of losing their firstborn son for Tamara and Andrew Isaacs.

And yet, sadly, stillbirth and late-term miscarriage are not uncommon.

At The Royal Hospital for Women in Randwick, NSW's only specialist women's hospital, dozens of families each year live out the stages of grief that consumed William's parents and relatives in 2012.

"You cannot stop the loss and the grief but we can alleviate some of the pain".

- Kirsty Berger, William's aunt

Through this fundraising page, William's mother Tamara Isaacs, and her sister, Kirsty Berger, aim to ease some of the pain of losing a newborn by improving the facilities at The Royal for families in this unenviable situation. Rather than having to give up their baby to the clinical hospital morgue built for adults, grieving parents at The Royal are able to access and cuddle their child immediately after the birth for as long as they wish, time and again, and at a few minutes' notice. This is because grieving parents are given private access to the Butterfly Room, designed and decorated specifically for the purpose of providing family members the opportunity to view and spend time with their tiny deceased relative.

Provided by The Royal Hospital for Women Foundation, the Butterfly Room is in need of renovation and an upgrade. New refrigerated units and a clinical area for dressing the baby will give safe, private and sterile access for the family to come to terms with their loss.

Your contributions to this page will help parents like Tamara and Andrew reconcile their sadness in a dignified atmosphere where they can grieve privately, hold their baby and spend time with each other to support and comfort one another.

Every gift to The Royal will help us help families like Tamara and Andrew. Please join with Kirsty, Tamara, and the extended family by donating to this worthy cause.

Thank you to my Supporters

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Anonymous

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Andromeda And Sean Neale

In loving memory of William, we hope that we can help in your work with other families experiencing such a heart breaking loss. We wish you all the best with your project.

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Les And Annabelle Isaacs

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Mark & Yolanda Kennedy

For darling William xxx

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Steven Lang And Julie Godfrey

Very pleased with your endeavours

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Trish O'brien

Thank you Kirsty and Tamara. Your support will provide grieving parents with access to the Butterfly Room to grieve privately and with dignity, spending precious last moments with their babies. Thank you so much for championing this cause.

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William's Grandmother

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Geordie And Debbie

Our hearts are with you, in loving memory of your precious son. Much love xx

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The Malki's

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Wanhee & Eloise

In loving memory of William.

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Hannah Chikarovski

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Jackie Segal

Tamara and Kirsty, what a beautiful tribute to William. Moving photos that truly capture the range of emotions. Remembering my Joshie (23/12/07). Much love xx

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Sarah Ingham

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Martin Greenberg

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Smlxl Projects

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Sil & Don Robertson

Always remembering William. Sending our love to all your family xx

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Cassie And Chris Hanaghan

A beautiful tribute to William. Sending much love xo

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Judi Redelman

With love and best wishes always. Judi & Dave xxxx

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Michael Wiener

I wish you all long life

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Michael Glatter

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Henry And Amy

The Butterfly Room, giving families precious time and space in their most harrowing hours. 🦋

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Anonymous

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Rebecca Finkelstein

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Kirsten Carriol

lovely initiative, all the best, Kirsten x

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Jade Sutton

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Danielle Jaku-greenfield

Lots of love.

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William & Nicole Nemesh

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Anonymous

Effects so many and glad to help out for this cause.

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